Book Review: If They Only Knew: A Cop’s Journey with Addiction and Mental Health by Lance Valcour Published March 2025 by Milner & Associates Inc. By Dr. José Luís (Joe) Couto, Director of Government Relations and Communications, Ontario Association of Chiefs of PoliceAs someone who has worked closely with many police officers for more than two decades and spent five years engaged in doctoral research on what makes police officers “tick,” I have often found that officers find it difficult to talk about personal mental health and addiction issues. I attribute much of that to the deeply engrained police culture that demands “toughness” in the face of what cops deal with “on the job”.

I was pleased to see that retired Inspector Lance Valcour’s memoir, If They Only Knew: A Cop’s Journey with Addiction and Mental Health, tears off the veil on the personal costs of serving in policing. Through raw honesty and deep self-reflection, Valcour delivers a narrative that is compelling and necessary. His story is not only about the personal toll of trauma, addiction, and mental illness, but a powerful call for cultural change within policing itself.

I have known Lance Valcour as a composed, consummate police profession. What I didn’t know was that behind that professionalism was a man silently struggling with alcohol dependency, depression, and the mounting weight of cumulative trauma. The courage it took to step into recovery—and then to write about it—is immense. His writing resonates with emotional sincerity and a desire not only to heal, but to help others begin their own healing.

Valcour’s journey drives home an important systemic challenge in policing: the culture of silence around mental health. His experience is a reminder that untreated trauma doesn’t disappear; it can fester and manifest itself in destructive coping mechanisms and deteriorating health and well-being. This book challenges the long-standing traditions of stoicism and denial that continue to plague many police organizations.

If They Only Knew should be required reading for police leaders, officers, those in police governance, and those who wish to join the profession. It humanizes the badge while making it clear that wellness cannot be optional. This memoir is a testament to personal resilience. It is also a call for the profession to support honest and brave personal introspection.
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